One of my oldest, dearest friends and mentors sent me an unexpected gift in the post this week. The gift? A storbyook, of sorts. A compilation of musings and poems written by a 12 year old girl. A 12 year old girl called Billie, who recently passed away in a tragic horse accident. No one is certain of what happened exactly, other than that her small body was found, trampled in the paddock, with the horse she had been leading, standing nearby. My dear friend was also friend to … [Read more...] about How Long Will You Be Here…?
You’ve got this plan a-hatching. You’re going to stitch on your wings and finally fly to that locale you’ve always wanted to live in. You’re going to leave the profession you’ve worked so hard for to open your own homewares store. You’re going to start a totally-craze-balls new diet regime that once you would never have dreamt of trying. You’re going to sell up and go-on-a-round-the-Country road trip. You’re going to enter that competition for the most gorgeous photography, or tidiest essay, … [Read more...] about You should do it anyway.
A leopard doesn’t change their spots. You can’t teach an old dog new tricks. Old habits die hard. Three popular idioms used in our everyday language, despite originating, in some cases, thousands of years ago. We may not give much thought to these these lines, but often, on some subliminal level, we actually buy into their underlying meaning. Which is to say, “I am not really capable of change.” Really think about it; do you believe … [Read more...] about Do you BELIEVE you’re really capable of CHANGING…?
“I had a stroke. It was the best thing that ever happened to me.” These were the words of one of the women who attended our Freedom Through Forgivenss workshop over the weekend. This woman stood before me with her history scripted over her body in indelible ink; hers was a history of pain, brutality and fear. Domestic violence had been the theme of her life, past. And yet, her face alone remained untouched. Because her face…? Shone with the essence of tomorrow. In our tomorrows … [Read more...] about You are as HOT as it gets.
We always reject ourselves first. Long before anyone has ‘broken it off,’ or uttered the fatal it’s-not-you-it’s-me blow, or fallen off the friendship-radar, something far more visceral, internal and unseen has been going on. Somewhere, in our frightfully wilful minds, we’ve convinced ourselves that we’re not quite up to scratch. ‘They’re going to see through me.’ ‘They’re going to work out I’m a cot case.’ ‘How could someone like that possibly want to hang out with … [Read more...] about Rejection, hot chocolate & mustard…
I remember an acquaintance (we’ll call her Jane), years ago, arriving late for a gathering (a book club meeting as it were). She’d run out of fuel on the side of the road (no judgement there…these things can happen …). Jane had called for road-side assistance, and when the bloke turned up to get her road-ready again, she noted he was of particularly dour disposition. He was out and out unfriendly, to put it plainly. Finally, after numerous attempts at banter, … [Read more...] about When to take it personally….
“I like your shoes!” “Really? Gawd. I hate them.” That was the response elicited when one of my girlfriends complimented an acquaintance on her spanky-looking shoes. The irony is, my girlfriend had made a conscious decision to keep her tone ‘positive and upbeat’ in her interaction with Ms I-Hate-My-Own-Shoes, because, ahem, this particular person has a lean toward being dog-gone negative. Ms I-Hate-My-Own-Shoes isn’t necessarily depressed (because then we're dealing with a different … [Read more...] about Ms I-Hate-My-Own-Shoes, the impact of negativity, and keeping the Roses close….
https://youtu.be/jjOMoRjvVCA This is a short and sweet story about potatoes. There was once a clever therapist that ran therapy sessions for a small group of people. One thing that the therapist found, week after week, was that everybody in the group kept bringing into the room past resentments and hang-ups toward people that they felt had wronged them in the past. Siblings, parents, past partners or lovers, previous bosses or managers. After awhile it became really apparent to … [Read more...] about How stinky potatoes teaches the Art of Letting Go and Forgiveness
As the calendar flipped over to the 1st August, I found myself reverting to some lines I’ve been using a bit too regularly; “I can’t BELIEVE how quickly the year is flying by! And, I can’t BELIEVE we’re in April, June, August already!” Why is this a problem…? Because by outwardly stating “I can’t believe where the time has gone..” I’m inadvertently giving myself permission to ‘not quite catch-up’ and ‘not quite take-stock' of the goals I’ve had an eye on kicking this … [Read more...] about 5 action steps to make the 2nd half of the year count…!
It’s after midnight. You’re sound asleep after a weekend well spent on the water, drinking the suns rays, rocked to calm by the sway of the deep ocean blue. In the cradle of sleep, dreaming of your day’s bounty, you are woken. Your bedroom door clicks to open. You turn in half-sleep, squinting your eyes, expecting your daughter standing at the door. Instead, there is a figure, too tall to be your girl. Too still to be friendly. A shadow, a silhouette. A? A..? An intruder. An intruder, … [Read more...] about 6 important steps to find light in the face of FEAR